Traveling with your Sweetheart: Ruin or Romance?
Trip Start May 31, 2006
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Deciding to travel with your loved one can certainly recharge the alliance. You're filled with excitement and sweet anticipation as you plan for the future journey together. What could possibly be better than backpacking the earth's vast terrain with your sweetheart? Well, as the ying-yang factor has taught us, there are advantages and disadvantages to everything.
First, traveling with your partner is most probably safer than traveling solo. You're less of a target if there's two of you, and if your man is a large lad, even better! Also, the security of having someone you trust blindly by your side builds your confidence throughout the strange lands and foreign tongues.
Also, traveling with your companion makes the trip cheaper. Sharing rooms, meals and sometimes transportation will cut costs by half, so if you're watching your budget, it's the best way to go to cheapen the experience.
Imagine walking on a thick tree-lined dirt path which suddenly clears up to reveal the most magnificent ancient stone temple, where the dawning sun is shining its subtle titian rays, and the light buzz of the dragon flies is the only sound. You gasp and hold your breath for a few seconds as you let it visually sink in, and while you're contemplating the scene you grab your sidekick's hand and squeeze it just a little. He squeezes back and you start breathing again, and you both quietly start commenting on this magical place. Moments like these when you're traveling with your other half are utterly priceless. You feel there's no place you'd rather be and no person you'd rather be with.
On the downside, being 24/7 with the same person can sometimes be a little frustrating. If you're having a bad mood day, everything will become annoying, especially the person who's closest to you at all times. When you're together this much, there will definitely be things that will start to irritate you about one another. Quirks that used to be amazingly cute now are really getting on your nerves.
It may happen that during the journey one wants to go to this place and the other wants to go to that place. Or that one wants to stay in and rest while the other is full of energy and wants to explore some more. Conflicts arise if you can't be flexible with the wishes or the expectations of each other. If you don't have a strict travel itinerary, there will come a time when different destinations and/or experiences are wanted from each person. One will lose and the other will win.
Bottom line, nothing tests a relationship better than traveling together. So as Ed and I reached our flat and we got ready to snuggle into bed, I asked myself if we had passed the test. We respect each other's wishes and opinions, we work as a team, we are flexible with each other, we act as a support for each other, we look and care for each other. Sure we have our moments of stress and frustration like any other couple, but we are still together and there's no place I'd rather be than right here with Ed.
So yeah, I'm sure we've passed.