Traveling with your Sweetheart: Ruin or Romance?

Trip Start May 31, 2006
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Tuesday, February 27, 2007

Not long ago Ed and I celebrated our 2 year anniversary together. We did like any other couple would with an exotic candle lit dinner over a sexy cabernet. And as we were walking home hand in hand, I grew silent and got to thinking about traveling with your partner. Does it strengthen the romantic bond or it can lead to the potential ruin of the relationship?

Deciding to travel with your loved one can certainly recharge the alliance. You're filled with excitement and sweet anticipation as you plan for the future journey together. What could possibly be better than backpacking the earth's vast terrain with your sweetheart? Well, as the ying-yang factor has taught us, there are advantages and disadvantages to everything.

First, traveling with your partner is most probably safer than traveling solo. You're less of a target if there's two of you, and if your man is a large lad, even better! Also, the security of having someone you trust blindly by your side builds your confidence throughout the strange lands and foreign tongues.

Also, traveling with your companion makes the trip cheaper. Sharing rooms, meals and sometimes transportation will cut costs by half, so if you're watching your budget, it's the best way to go to cheapen the experience.

Imagine walking on a thick tree-lined dirt path which suddenly clears up to reveal the most magnificent ancient stone temple, where the dawning sun is shining its subtle titian rays, and the light buzz of the dragon flies is the only sound. You gasp and hold your breath for a few seconds as you let it visually sink in, and while you're contemplating the scene you grab your sidekick's hand and squeeze it just a little. He squeezes back and you start breathing again, and you both quietly start commenting on this magical place. Moments like these when you're traveling with your other half are utterly priceless. You feel there's no place you'd rather be and no person you'd rather be with.

On the downside, being 24/7 with the same person can sometimes be a little frustrating. If you're having a bad mood day, everything will become annoying, especially the person who's closest to you at all times. When you're together this much, there will definitely be things that will start to irritate you about one another. Quirks that used to be amazingly cute now are really getting on your nerves.

It may happen that during the journey one wants to go to this place and the other wants to go to that place. Or that one wants to stay in and rest while the other is full of energy and wants to explore some more. Conflicts arise if you can't be flexible with the wishes or the expectations of each other. If you don't have a strict travel itinerary, there will come a time when different destinations and/or experiences are wanted from each person. One will lose and the other will win.

Bottom line, nothing tests a relationship better than traveling together. So as Ed and I reached our flat and we got ready to snuggle into bed, I asked myself if we had passed the test. We respect each other's wishes and opinions, we work as a team, we are flexible with each other, we act as a support for each other, we look and care for each other. Sure we have our moments of stress and frustration like any other couple, but we are still together and there's no place I'd rather be than right here with Ed.

So yeah, I'm sure we've passed.
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mizliz on

This post...
and isn't that the truth, Lu!

I find it's not only amazing but wonderful that you are discovering what it's like to travel with a beloved in your 20s what I only found in my 50s. Learning to give and take in a loving and respectful relationship is one of life's great lessons, not always easy but very satisfying for both parties if they truly love each other and are willing to work together.

I was fortunate to have four great trips with the love of my life, after I had raised my family, divorced, and entered a whole new world of a different kind...being on my own, independent at last, earning my own living, and luckily I soon met the one I was meant to be with. I am glad you and Ed have been able to do this at a much younger age, and you have your whole lives ahead of you to devote to each other.

I am confident that you and Ed will be together for a very long time, enjoying each other and your adventures together. You both seem to be people who are willing to make all the adjustments necessary for a relationship to continue, and I wish you both all the luck in the world in attaining this.

zento on

Re: This post...
Thank you for your comment! I wanted to say that the advantage you have over those of us who fall in love young, is that you FEEL 20 when you're 50! You have nothing to regret after picking youself up and falling in love again....most people never do.

Thank you so much for your faith in us, and thank you for sharing.

Your Friends,
Lu and Ed

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