Rest day in Lomé
Trip Start Mar 24, 2010
13Trip End Apr 12, 2010
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After services there was lots of joyful conversation. The visitors from Benin hadn’t been here in months, so there was lots of catching up to do on news here and there. I had some counseling with individual members, situations where Mr. Fiaboé asked for my advice or intervention. Sometimes "a prophet is not without honor save in his own country" and a little outside support goes a long way in helping. We’re ticking items off our list day by day.
Then it was time for the wedding rehearsal. This was a new concept here. Pierre and Enyonam who are to be married, and their families, were eager to have this be a real “church wedding” so they asked how we would usually do things. I explained the way things happened in Europe and how that differed from the US, and also how other weddings I had either seen or performed in Africa had taken place. They selected out of that “menu” what they thought would work best here and we walked everyone one through the steps with the music and then rehearsed twice to make sure everyone knew his place and role. It turns out that wedding rehearsals may be a big hit here. There was lots of laughter and joking, a little blushing and nervousness and a generally happy time.
We wouldn’t normally schedule a wedding the morning before the Passover observance, but time is of the essence here, and the finances had waited patiently until I could arrive so they could have a proper church wedding. Mr. Fiaboé has never conducted a church wedding and perhaps never seen one (I didn’t ask), so he much preferred that I conduct this one so he can see how it’s done.
I had a last private counseling with the fiancés to see if they had any last questions, we made sure I had the names right in my little black book and I took the opportunity to have a final talk with them about marriage and roles and things of which to be careful. The Counseling they had with Mr. Fiaboé was guided by step-by-step counseling documents I had sent over. I reviewed a few things and was pleased and reassured with the answers they gave. I returned the documents they had filled out to them, and encouraged them to keep them. I told them they’d enjoy re-reading them in 20 years (as my wife and I have done with ours….).
We could have had one more visit, but it might be a long one, and I decided to save it for tomorrow, early afternoon. The sun was setting, and I was feeling the after-effects of the trip and full days of teaching and hours of talking. Tomorrow will be very full once again if all goes as planned: a wedding, leadership training, visits and the Passover service – the most meaningful night of the year.