The Proposal

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Tuesday, March 3, 2009

To pick up where the last blog left off, I've never been a big proponent of marriage.  I had been collecting a long list of reasons not to do it for most of my life.  But the last 5 years with Lindsey had been unlike anything I had known before.  I love her more than I thought possible.  But I'll let her tell the story about the day of March 3:

Dane was back in Texas, and we had been spending a lot of time visiting and catching up with family, so one day he suggested we take the day just for ourselves - sort of a daytime date.  He wanted to go to New Braunfels to a lookout over the Guadalupe River where we had gone on our third date.

It was a gorgeous day and we were standing on the deck enjoying the view.  Dane was hugging me lots and saying very sweet things, but Dane always does that, so it wasn't really out of the ordinary.  But then I put my hand on his chest, and his heart was pounding so hard it felt like it was going to leap out at me.  I asked if everything was ok, and Dane took my hand in his and answered with this:  

"Lindsey, I knew long before I told you that I loved you.  I knew long before I showed you that I needed you.  And I knew long before now that I wanted to spend my life with you."  

Then, to my great surprise, Dane knelt down!  I knew what that meant, but I couldn't believe it was happening.  I felt like I was floating.  And then Dane said, "Lindsey, you are my best friend. You are my partner.  You are the love of my life.  And now it would mean the world to me if you would do me the honor of also being my wife."

Yes, my Dane had just proposed.  I think I stammered, "Oh, my god, I can't believe you're doing this" several times before Dane reminded me that technically I'm supposed to give an answer.  My reply was somewhere along the lines of "yes, of course, a thousand times, yes!"

Then lots of hugging, crying, and laughing ensued.  

Finally, I remembered Dane had slid a ring on my finger, but I hadn't really paid attention to that part.  I looked down and saw a perfect, beautiful, blue stone on a delicate band.  Dane knew I was opposed to the African diamond mining trade and the idea of spending an around-the-world trip on a single piece of jewelry.  So he had bought me a Ceylon sapphire.  And it's an estate piece, which is even more perfect because I love things to have a history.

So now Dane and I are engaged to be married.  We're not sure yet on the where and when, but we're very excited about it.

Some people have been quite surprised to hear our news, perhaps even a little disappointed that we are breaking from our rather non-conformist lifestyle and doing something so conventional.  The explanation we offer is simply that it just feels right...which is strange, I know, because we were both rather cynical about the union, having come from divorced families.  And before we had met, we had individually come to the decision that we preferred travel and independence over having a family and stability.  But here we are, five years into our relationship, and we still marvel at one another and how perfect we are for each other.  Our relationship is a daily joy.  We love each other's company, can't get enough of one another, and can't imagine a future in which we're not together.  And suddenly "marriage" doesn't even quite seem enough.  They should create a new union for people this in love.

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