Happy Valentine's Day!
Trip Start Sep 20, 2007
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Alexis wrote something similar to this on her MSN profile welcome comment today. Only 13 and she's wondering what the big deal is? Is that a good thing? Or is she already disillusioned about love?
I mentioned yesterday that I was going to have a Valentine Day romance movie marathon. I had 5 relationship movies to watch. I wasn't too sure what to expect from these movies. But I've learned that they "caught my eye" for a reason.
The titles are as follows:
No Reservations..."I wish there was a cookbook for life, with recipes telling us exactly what to do!", a romantic comedy about a single, workaholic, perfectionist chef, who is entrusted with her orphaned niece when her sister dies in a car accident, then meets a free spirited sous chef who opens up her eyes to bigger things in life.
Lucky You...a movie that takes place in the city that never sleeps and has gambling as the main theme. The main character must learn to live life the way that he plays card, by trusting his heart, instead of his head. A movie I had seen a preview of that I would consider more life oriented than romantic.
The Holiday...another romantic comedy. A story where it doesn't matter if you try and run away from your problems, life will throw a wrench into things and well laid out plans don't go as you think they will. Another movie I remember seeing a preview of.
Once...described as what may well be the best music film of our generation. A movie about relationships, dreams, expectations and a fairy tale ending with a twist. A foreign film that I might have seen a preview of but for whatever reason caught my eye at the store.
...and last Paris, Je T'Aime. Another foreign film that I knew nothing of. Paris, the most romantic city in the world. Stories of Love, From the City of Love.
As you read in today's other blog I ended up driving around Corpus Christi as I might not stick around much longer. My well laid out plans to spend Valentine's Day watching movies in Corpus Christi was not to be.
You may be asking yourself why I would I torture myself like this. Single, alone, in a faraway place and doing everything to remind himself that he is, single...alone...and a long way from home. I've come a long way from my "Dark Days of Mordor" when I entered the USA for 6 months. I'm not ready to give up my secret...just yet...but I have figured out the meaning of life. When you come to that realization life becomes clearer. Jesus new it. Buddha did. So did Muhammad. So did/do others. Maybe you do, but don't realize it. When I was in New Orleans I wrote a bunch of headlines..unconsciously writing, that "The Meaning of Life" was found in that city. Little did I know when I wrote it, that that headline would be prophetic.
In New Orleans I met Hannah, the young Christian woman. She posted a comment in my blog and then I wrote her an email. I wanted to know how she knew God had spoken to her and wanted her to serve him. She wrote a long email back describing her journey to where she's at. I haven't asked her yet if it's OK that I mention all that she wrote, but there is something that she said that relates to what Valentine's Day is all about. I will quote her instead of paraphrasing.
"God is a God of relationship. That's why he created us, because he wanted relationship. He designed us in his image, so we desire relationship as well. But every single relationship on earth has flaws and hurts, no matter how strong it is. With God, the relationship is complete. It's not missing anything."
So how does this tie in to Valentine Day and my "torturing" myself in being single? I am not torturing myself. Do I enjoy being single and alone? No. Am I single and alone? Physically. Yes! Spiritually. No!
There are a lot of authors out there who write from the perspective that we are all connected as one either through the soul, at the quantum level, or some other way for various reasons. If you think from a spiritual perspective we are all connected through our spirits, or God. Physically we are all connected from an evolutionary perspective as it all started from the Big Bang. How does this connectivity affect how we live our lives? Are we even aware of these connections? Can we even be aware of them?
I would like to believe that I am extremely romantic. I love to watch romantic movies as much as most women. Probably more than most guys. I like to do things to show how romantic that I am. Most people who are single try and forget that they are single. That's why Valentine Day and Christmas are so depressing for most single people. It's deeply ingrained in us to crave relationship. The ultimate relationship is with God. But we have a lot of difficulty with that relationship because we don't always see him as part of that bond. We often feel that he's missing.
In human relationships the same problem occurs even though two people may be physically together. The emotional bond goes missing for some reason. So how do we solve this problem. Relationship experts have been trying to solve that for a long time. Do you think I've solved it in the few months I've been on a Journey in search of the Meaning of Life? I think so.
I had, what I would consider for the situation, a romantic Valentine Day evening...relatively speaking. I had supper. I made popcorn. I had wine. I watched a romantic movie...by myself. I was, and still am, extremely happy. I felt the love of all those who love me... spiritually. I was at peace with the idea that they were not physically with me. They no longer have to be.
The movie I ended up watching was " Lucky You" . It was a story about a young professional gambler following in his father's footsteps even though he hates his father. His father stole his mother's wedding ring to pawn it so that her could gamble, then left her. The son never forgave his father for the hurt he caused his mother. The son meets a young woman and they have a difficult time making their relationship work due to his gambling "addiction". It wasn't exactly the romantic movie that I was looking for even though the young man and the woman end up together in the end after the son learns his life lessons. There is a moral to the story, but I won't get into it at this time.
Valentine Day is a day of love. It's marketed as a day to show our loved ones that we love them. I believe the focus is too narrow. Everyday should be Valentine Day, and not only to show those near us that we love them but to show everyone that we love them. Love is one of those words that means so many different things to each and every one of us. Context means a lot. The past means a lot. Experience means a lot.
We have to learn to take Love to the next level. A lot of people know how to do that. Too many don't.
I LOVE YOU!