Helping a friend in need.
Trip Start Jul 22, 2009
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Six and a half weeks ago I was in Montreal getting my daughter set up in her apartment prior to University starting. I visited a little with my friend Monique but we didn't spend much time in deep discussion about the meaning of life and how to save the the world.
After leaving town she asked if I'd pass by again so that we could solve the problems of the world. Why go at it alone when you can share the burden is my motto. Since I have a willing partner might as well make the detour and see what we can do.
Monique and I have known each other for about, or is it over, 30 years. We met in high school, dated a while, stayed friends, hung out in university, then lost touch. Twenty years later I'm working on a project for work where we try and locate people. With the tools I had at my disposal I figured I might as well test the systems by trying to locate someone from my past. For whatever reason I thought of her. Talk about looking for a needle in a haystack.
Women usually get married and change their surname. Who knows what city or even country she might be in by now. By now you've already guessed that I found her. Yes, I found her working in the building across the street from the one I was working in at the time. Fate? Luck? Serendipity? The Master Plan?
Monique and I, more or less, gave up long term careers at about the same time, but for different reasons. We have similar ideas about life. We have similar goals. Yes, we want to save the world and make it a better place. Lofty goals indeed.
When she was in Calgary we would have these long discussions about the books we were reading and create these theories about life. OK. Maybe I created the theories and she was making a business plan to see how she could profit from it (just joking M). She was a high level business manager. It's hard to change.
Currently she's writing a book and spending all her hard earned savings. She's running out of it and is having a hard time having faith in her purpose. I'm probably closer to being at the end of the financial tightrope then she is but I have faith in what I'm trying to accomplish. I am asset rich and cash poor. Banks still want to receive their mortgage payments even when you tell them the house is for sale but the housing market sucks. I have faith because I grew up in a house where faith was a big part of our life. She didn't.
A friend of hers came over last night and we chatted. He took a very early retirement package from the RCMP for certain reasons. We had met a couple of years ago, the last time I was in Montreal. Telling him my story and where I'm at fascinated him. The certainty that events do happen as they should when you are following the right path is something I've come to believe in because I've experienced it. Until you actually experience something it's hard to believe. It's hard to have FAITH.
Back to Monique. For whatever reason I push just the right buttons to make her see the light, at least until the next time. I say, or write, just the right stuff to help her out of her funk. The thing is, she does the same for me. We constantly comment on each others blogs and writings and are not afraid to tell each other they are full of shit or following the wrong path. We all need someone like that. We cannot be afraid to tell the truth.
Monique knows her problem is lack of faith. Her boyfriend has faith in her. Most people have faith in her. But she doesn't have faith in herself. We had a big discussion about how do you get someone to have faith in themselves or something or someone else. Why do people have faith in a higher being when there is no concrete proof of their/its existence? Why do some people have so much faith in their abilities while others are insecure? How do you go about teaching faith? You can teach someone to DO something, but that doesn't mean you are teaching them to have faith in that new ability.
My theory. Lie. Lie, to yourself, until you actually believe the lie. Lie until the fiction becomes reality. People keep on telling me that I'm an amazing photographer. I keep on saying that this or that photo is amazing. But I'm just lying to myself. I haven't won any awards. I haven't even sold any of my photos. How can they be so amazing then? I'm lying to myself because it's the only way I can justify spending all the money that I am on traveling and on photography equipment. I am lying to myself by saying that I have faith in the ability to make a living from selling my photos. Why? Because it's the only way to make it to tomorrow and not give up.
Think about this from a historical and religious perspective. There is no concrete, scientific, proof of a God. There is no empirical evidence that one exists. There are all the arguments about we wouldn't exist, only a God would create such a beautiful world, etc, etc. But really, there is no proof, except in the "knowing" of each individual who does believe.
Historically, humans lived through some pretty atrocious, terrifying and desperate times. Some still do. The only thing that kept them going was the idea that there was an afterlife that would make their shit existence worthwhile. They lied to themselves to get through their life. They had no proof that there was really a better afterlife. They hoped. They prayed. That made life worth living for. Someone (the churches and mystics) told them a story and they believed. They had FAITH.
Now take that down to the personal level. Tell yourself a story. Tell yourself that what you are doing is meaningful and is serving the greater good of mankind, even in it's small, maybe insignificant way. The janitor who cleans the washrooms of a major corporation is just as important as the CEO. One could not exist without the other.
Once you realize the lie, the story, you are selling yourself is making your story meaningful then, and only then will you have true faith. Then you can do anything. Once you believe and have faith in yourself, only then can you truly have faith in a higher power, one that is only, what I would describe, as true love. Faith in yourself is love. Faith in others is love, Faith in mankind is love. Faith IS Love!
So, start lying to yourself about having faith in whatever you lack faith in yourself about. One day you'll believe the lie, and you'll be doing whatever you thought was impossible.
The next problem is trying to get people to have faith in the eventual existence of Heaven on Earth, especially considering the current state of affairs and the history of mankind. Put on your rose coloured glasses and start lying, I think. If we can do it at a personal level, why not at a global level.
Nique, I lied. I said you would only merit a short blurb. But you are too important in the Master Plan to merit just a blurb.
Think It! Feel It! Live It!