Lighthouse of Enlightenment

Trip Start Sep 03, 2010
Trip End Oct 05, 2010

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Flag of United States  , California
Monday, September 20, 2010

Enlightened at the Lighthouse As Bonnie, Navi, and I headed up California Highway 1, I made a sudden decision to visit the Point Arena Lighthouse. This lighthouse offered warnings to ships about the sea and the coast.  This place rests in a beautiful bay.  It offers a place for people to exchange wedding vows as they view the wonderment of God's work.  They may also enter in the wonderment of a life together.

I felt those feelings inside my heart as I rode slowly up the lighthouse road.  The thought of couples beginning their shared lives together permeated my heart.  I wondered about my own mother and father as they took their vows.  I have never seen any photographs of that day.

Robyn gave me insight into my dad’s life.  He and his father were hurt and emotionally crippled by the death of my father’s mother.  It seems that when my father’s only sibling, Aunt Betty was born, their mother died.  This left hurt feelings by my father.  Robyn’s mother, Aunt Betty, was that baby. She revealed this to Robyn.  My father never mentioned it. 

My father resented his own father for the loss of his mother.  Ironically my paternal grand-father resented Betty for it as well.  James Louis Day went into a numbing way of life.  Drinking and not loving was his way of coping with the loss. His son, James Louis Day, Jr. learned how to be a father through living with an emotionally injured father.

My mother lost her mother in the birthing of her sibling also.  When my crippled Aunt Claudia was born, my maternal grandmother died.  My mother never recovered from her six year old tragedy.

The two of them, my parents, had a common suffering.  They bonded on the foundation of loss.  They came together on the bed-rock of pain.  This came to me as I went back in time to see what brought these two together.  The fundamental need to raise children was shared by both.  Elements such as the lack of family unit examples and family pressures led to their destruction as a family.  Both were heavy drinkers supported by a non-drinking man.  My maternal grandfather, Pop Dansby was there to provide a solid foundation for the both of them.  My father found himself living in a house built by his father-in-law, trying to establish a new family with a princess.

I went back to Bonnie sat and cried for people who misunderstand themselves and the ones they love.  I felt enlightened by the thought of what actually had occurred to two people who bonded, if only briefly.  I am the fruit of that union.

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Briana on

Bonnie? nice name! LOL

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