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[greekcypriot]

It is obvious that children nowadays are very different to children many years back. It is not that all young children are rude, but most of them don't understand or refuse to understand their parents' situation.
They are demanding, and what they care most is the picture created towards their friends.
I found this little story and video as I was reading this morning:

Have a look at it, and comment on the behaviour of children today.


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[starlagurl]

I don't know how different they are really...

Since the 1950s teens have always been spending lots of discretionary income on crap and trendy items. I think we all did it.

[2olives]

I don't agree. I think the range of behavior has become the biggest problem. Thoughtful parents like my grandparents did not engage in the wasteful, needless spending. They taught life lessons about how to save, how to manage bills, the value of a dollar and the work it required to earn these dollars. Some of my friends had a similar upbringing, but other friends were spoiled and given no sense of responsibility. So now you have this gap, and the tension between the groups... There isn't a clear path for kids to follow. I think the same can be said for other facets of behavior, like respect, manners, awareness, etc.

[jrheavymetal]

Interesting article...I had to read the piece below it, and I disagree with the statement that the piggy bank has become a wasted piece of junk. My 13 and 15 year old kids each have one, and use them. When they become full, they either go to the bank and add it to their savings, or use it toward a purchase of an item they are saving for.
Last year, they both decided they wanted to use the money in their glass piggy to purchase gifts for needy children, and thats what they did. No one pushed or asked them to do it.....its something they talked over amongst themselves and decided they wanted to do it. So I don't think the one slotted piggy bank should be considered a piece of junk just yet.

[legih0]

I do believe that children should respect their elders, behave in a grocery store or any other public venue, and mind their parents.

[jrheavymetal]

Don't you think alot of the problem is that many parents today just don't know how to be parents? We have this friend, she's a school teacher, her husband is a lobsterman. True, this is their first child, but they have absolutely no control over him. He's 6 years old, and he sts the rules.
We drove two hours wth them togo pick wild strawberries. Pull into the parking area, start to get out of the van, and the kid says, I don't want to pick strawberries, I want to go back home and watch tv. They look at us and his mother says, I'm really sorry about this, but we have to go back to the island, he wants to watch tv. No oke...we all piled back in the van and drove two hours back so you know who could wach tv.
Last fall, right after they purchased their brand new mini van, and the kid begins tossing tiny pebbles and handfuls of dirt a the side of it. His dad wasn't there, but it wouldn't have mattered. She rushes toward him and tells him he can't b doing that to daddy and mommys new car. Daddy won't like it at all. He starts crying and she backs away from him. He then begins throwing stuff at the side of the new car.
She just looks helplessly at my wife and pleads, "What am I suppose to do? How would you guys handle this? We told her what we would do, she replied, but punishing him ould only upset him more.
Even thought they are friends, this couple should never have had kids. I don't know what lays ahead for this poor kid once he becomes a teen.

[greekcypriot]

You are absolutely right.
I have watched a couple of times a series on tv where a social worker comes into the house and takes care of the whole situation, and tries to see what the problem is with the kids or the parents.
Most of the times the parents are to blame and not the children.Here in Greece the majoriity of parents try to give their children what they did not have when they were children themselves.
They luck entertainment themselves just to give everything to their children. They never travel and save so that their children will enjoy their life. The result having raising demanding unsatisfied children!

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[johnny_mac]

I think you are talking about spoiled brats. giving in to each of their demand is tolerating them.

[jrheavymetal]

Wow, I went into town today, the streets were as packed with tourists s they have been this year. As we approached Main Street we could hear this baby screaming bloody murder....this kid had a full set of lungs and more. So as we approached, we saw thekid in a stroller, still screamiong, and the mother sitting on a bench eating an ice cream as if nothing was going on.
Before long, many of the people on that end of Main Street bewgan moving toward the other end, trying to get away from all that screaming. I went up on the other end as well, and you could still hear that kid screaming almost half an hour later. She finally got up and started off down another street, to everyone's relief.
I almost think it was borderline child abuse. The child was clearly hungry or wet, but mom wasn't going to let anything come between her and her ice cream...

[starlagurl]

Wow, I saw the exact same thing happening at the bus stop last summer (on a very hot day)

Kid: "WATERRRRRRRRRRR WAAAAAAAAAAAAAATERRRRRRRRR WAAAAAAAAAAAAATTTTTTTTEEERRRR" Desperately reaching to a sippy cup presumably full of water.

Mom: "No! I'm not giving you water, you'll just spill it all over yourself again."

I was like wha/????

[jrheavymetal]

It just blew me away how she just went on enjoying her ice cream on Main Street like there was nothing in the world happening around her.

[shubhranshu]

We the parents are responsible for developing the habits in our children. We should always tell the truth to our kids and should teach them to accept the realities and personal limitations.

[starlagurl]

teach them to accept the realities and personal limitations.

WHAT?!



That makes no sense at all... If you teach your children they have limitations, they won't have any hope to do anything great!



NEVER EVER do that, that's TERRIBLE advice.

[greekcypriot]

I would say " give them the chance to be themselves, watch them from a distance, and trust them. If kids feel that you trust them, they will be good kids for sure"

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[jrheavymetal]

I would say " give them the chance to be themselves, watch them from a distance, and trust them. If kids feel that you trust them, they will be good kids for sure"

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I totally agree...this has been the approach we took with our kids, ages 22, 15, and 13, and not once in any trouble with the law, I think we are doing pretty good.